Ten Steps to Restore Your Marriage

Dr Seghers views human experience as an inherently creative process and works to empower his clients to create meaningful and fulfilling lives through committed action based on personal values He is an avid photographer backpacker and meditation practitioner and has been happily married for 10 years Contact Dr Seghers: (949) 892-7065 DrSeghers@ Is an institution that is historically filled with restrictions From age to race to social status to consanguinity to gender restrictions are placed on by society for reasons of benefiting the children passing on healthy genes maintaining cultural values or because of prejudice and fear Almost all cultures that recognize also recognize adultery as a violation of the. Religions develop in specific geographic and social milieux.[212] Unsurprisingly religious attitudes and practices relating to can vary The precepts of mainstream religions include as a rule unequivocal prescriptions for establishing both rituals and rules of conduct.[citation needed] Other partners are more or less imposed on an individual For example widow inheritance provides a widow with another man from her late husband's brothers In rural areas of India child is practiced with parents often arranging the wedding sometimes even before the child is born.[83] This practice was made illegal under the Child Restraint. Edmund Leach criticized Gough's definition for being too restrictive in terms of recognized legitimate offspring and suggested that be viewed in terms of the different types of rights it serves to establish In 1955 article in Man Leach argued that no one definition of applied to all cultures He offered a list of ten rights associated with including sexual monopoly and rights with respect to children with specific rights differing across cultures Those rights according to Leach included: Serial monogamy creates a new kind of relative the "ex-" The "ex-wife" for example remains an active part of her "ex-husband's" or "ex-wife's" as they may be tied together by transfers of resources (alimony child support) or shared child custody Bob Simpson notes that in the British case serial monogamy creates an "extended family" – a number of households tied together in this way including mobile children (possible exes may include an ex-wife an ex-brother-in-law etc but not an "ex-child") These "unclear families" do not fit the mould of the monogamous nuclear family As a series of connected households they come to resemble the polygynous model of separate households maintained by mothers with children tied by a male to whom they are married or divorced.[19] My husband and I had been separated for two months when he asked me to go with him to this We had tried a couple of counseling sessions during the time of our separation but we had not felt comfortable at all and achieved nothing We live in New York City and I thought… Read more “Enrica K.” Governments that support monogamy may allow easy divorce In a number of Western countries divorce rates approach 50% Those who remarry do so on average three times Divorce and re can thus result in "serial monogamy" i.e having multiple s but only one legal spouse at a time This can be interpreted as a form of plural mating as are those societies dominated by female-headed families in the Caribbean Mauritius and Brazil where there is frequent rotation of unmarried partners In all these account for 16 to 24% of the "monogamous" category.[18] We must see that because of our fallen nature we have been unable to be the person and the mate that we need to be and that God wants us to be We are often sensitive critical defensive angry impatient haughty and self-willed It is important to understand and remember that this is our natural disposition and without God’s grace we will never be anything different Only with God’s help will we be able to stop negative dysfunctional behavior. Satan corrupted Eve’s thinking through deceitful suggestions He tempted her to think that God was holding out on her that God could not be trusted Through suggestion he caused her to doubt and to think irrationally He deceived her into thinking and believing that she should not depend on God but should take matters into her own hands instead of following God and His will for her Today Satan uses the same tactics and tries to do the same thing to us One of his chief tactics in your present circumstances will likely be to try to convince you that this situation is too big for God That is a lie Jesus said “With man this is impossible but not with God; all things are possible with God”(Mark 10:27) Nothing is too difficult for God Certainly God can help you to restore your Draw support from a church community to help you restore your Identify people who care about you and your spouse Ask them to pray for you and mentor you as you work to reconcile Accept help from family friends your church staff and others for whatever you need Attend a weekly prayer group or Bible Study and begin to understand and apply Scripture to your Find a Christian person of the same sex who you can become accountable to Be open and honest with those you are accountable to but do not dishonor your spouse with your “sharing.” Be open to Christian counseling to help you restore your Establish a learning regimen Remind yourself why you married your spouse in the first place and why you’ve chosen to remain married thus far 7 Reconcile with. The Roman Catholic tradition of the 12th and 13th centuries defined as a sacrament ordained by God,[214] signifying the mystical of Christ to his Church.[224] The matrimonial covenant by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament.[225] “About two years into our my husband and I were talking about divorce The tension and upset got so bad that we could hardly stand sleeping next to each other and nearly every comment either of us would make was taken wrongly by the other It was utter agony because I loved him very… Read more “Rhonda A.” “this weekend was the best decision my husband and I ever made Recovering from an affair was something I wasn’t sure was possible considering all the marital issues we had before it This weekend gave me the power to forgive my spouse I have totally recommitted my to God as well My husband and… Read more “Anonymous 3” In turn choose to give the gift of forgiveness to your spouse Remember how much God has forgiven you Let your gratitude for that motivate you to forgive your spouse for all the ways he or she has hurt you Rely on God’s help to move through the process of forgiveness trusting that He will make it possible for you to forgive and possible for you to restore your Dr Robert Puff has been successfully counseling individuals families organizations and businesses for over twenty years in and around Orange County His counseling has helped thousands find happiness… Happiness Podcast 3/26/2015 “I love listening to these podcasts when I’m stressed They are relaxing and helpful.” – Ginger H 2/17/2015 “Robert has lots of practical life lessons If you’re looking for inner peace listen to his podcast on his website It can truly help So far I’ve listened to seven of them and It really helps Bob’s voice and the tone are comforting His techniques are very forward can’t control the length of your life but you can control its you for caring God bless always.” – Master W. These rights and obligations vary considerably between societies and between groups within society.[99] These might include arranged s family obligations the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit the legal protection of children and public declaration of commitment.[100][101] The steps that an unmarried father must take in order to obtain rights to his child vary by country In some countries (such as the UK – since 2003 in England and Wales 2006 in Scotland and 2002 in Northern Ireland) it is sufficient for the father to be listed on the birth certificate for him to have parental rights;[202] in other countries such as Ireland simply being listed on the birth certificate does not offer any rights additional legal steps must be taken (if the mother agrees the parents can both sign a "statutory declaration" but if the mother does not agree the father has to apply. In the early modern period John Calvin and his Protestant colleagues reformulated Christian by enacting the Ordinance of Geneva which imposed "The dual requirements of state registration and church consecration to constitute "[214] for recognition. In a small number of jurisdictions relationships may be created by the operation of the law alone.[citation needed] Unlike the typical ceremonial with legal contract wedding ceremony and other details a common-law may be called " by habit and repute (cohabitation)." A de facto common-law without a license or ceremony is legally binding in some jurisdictions but has no legal consequence in others.[122] Satan seeks to mess with our minds cause us to doubt God’s power and to distract us from following Christ This is Satan’s disguise He seeks to perpetrate selfish and independent attitudes in man He seeks to corrupt us through our thinking to get us to exalt ourselves through selfish and independent actions and attitudes The undisciplined mind is vulnerable to satanic attacks designed to defeat us by causing wrongful thinking To have the and God wants for us we must be alert deal with our enemy refute his lies and think straight James admonishes us “Submit yourselves then to God Resist the devil and he will flee from you”(James 4:7) The apostle Paul admonishes us to bring every thought captive to obedience to Christ: 7/28/2015 “ counselor newport beach is how I think we found Dr Puff We wanted to learn more about how we can take our relationship to another level Our isnt bad but we knew we wanted to grow closer in all aspects of love So we seeked out the best counselor we could find online which Dr Puff seemed like the right answer He is such a gentle guy and very easy to speak to He doesn’t make you feel judged like other psychologists tend to do He has given us so many relationship building tools and helped us better understand one another Definitely the right counselor if you are having any type of relationship issue or what to grow further like we have.” –. The health-protective effect of is stronger for men than women.[260][262] Marital status—the simple fact of being married—confers more health benefits to men. A statutory right of two married partners to mutually consent to divorce was enacted in western nations in the mid-20th century In the United States no-fault divorce was first enacted in California in 1969 and the final state to legalize it was New York in 1989.[265] About 45% of s in Britain[266] and according to a 2009 study 46% of s in the U.S.[267] end in divorce. Pray daily and ask Him to help you see your spouse and your relationship through His eyes Ask Him for spiritual discernment and wisdom and it will be provided Trust in God’s promise in James 1:5: “If any of you lacks wisdom let him ask God who gives to all men generously and without reproaching and it will be given him” (RSV) 10 Seek Immediate Help 10/18/2016 “Listening to Dr Puff’s podcasts is one of the kindest things I do for myself all day It is always enlightening and I come away with positive lessons to start the day Can’t get much better than that Thank you Dr Puff!” –. 1/19/2016 “I whole-heartedly recommend Dr Puff to anyone that is interested in improving his/her way of ! He offers a myriad of ways to do this and through several types of media I have read his books listened to his podcasts and attended his workshops I can’t tell you which I like best because I love them all! His genuine kindness and care for others is evident throughout his work and I have yet to find anyone out there who is more committed to sharing their peace and joy than Dr Puff! At the last workshop that I attended he was very willing to answer my questions and believe me I had a lot of them!! He seemed very patient with the group as a whole and there was never a sense of trying to keep to a schedule It just goes to show that he really lives what he writes and speaks.” – JMarie C. An issue that is a serious concern regarding and which has been the object of international scrutiny is that of sexual violence within Throughout much of the history in most cultures sex in was considered a 'right' that could be taken by force (often by a man from a woman) if 'denied' As the concept of human rights started to develop in the 20th century and with the arrival of second-wave feminism such views have become less widely held.[citation needed] Some people want to marry a person with higher or lower status than them Others want to marry people who have similar status In many societies women marry men who are of higher social status.[60] There are s where each party has sought a partner of similar status There are other s in which the man is older than. Satan is no impotent imaginary character but rather he is a present and real enemy who seeks the destruction of God’s people including their s and families He attacked the first and he is still attacking s today The problem is that many times couples get duped into fighting each other in their s rather than fighting the real enemy Your mate is not your enemy Your real enemy is Satan and his evil forces I once read a magazine article about conflict in that said “ is the only war where you sleep with the enemy.” But that’s not true your mate is not your enemy It is important for you to know that Your enemy is Satan and he is the one who will do anything and everything in his power to destroy your Jesus described him as a thief He said “The thief comes only to steal and to kill and destroy”(John 10:10a). The that we attended by Cornerstone at a time of need was truly a amazing experience It reassured us that we had to put the Lord first to insure our would survive “I can do all thing through Him who strengthens me Philippians 4:13” The program that was put on by Roy… Read more “Anonymous 2” Our mind is the battlefield Through deceit and lies the enemy tries to keep every believer from trusting and walking with God His typical method of attacking the thought generally involves nothing more than well-timed suggestions He knows our weaknesses and vulnerabilities and his carefully timed suggestions can bring dangerous results Unless the enemy and his demonic allies are resisted a believers mind will be like a city without walls easily invaded by anything that happens to be around Solomon describes this in Proverbs: “He that has no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down and without walls” (Proverbs 25:28). Check out our Facebook page for more insightful articles In an analysis of among the Nayar a polyandrous society in India Gough found that the group lacked a husband role in the conventional sense; that unitary role in the west was divided between a non-resident "social father" of the woman's children and her lovers who were the actual procreators None of these men had legal rights to the woman's child This forced Gough to disregard sexual access as a key element of and to define it in terms of legitimacy of offspring alone: is "a relationship established between a woman and one or more other persons which provides a child born to the woman under circumstances not prohibited by the rules of relationship is accorded full birth-status rights common to normal members of his society or social stratum."[13] From the early Christian era (30 to 325 CE) was thought of as primarily a private matter with no uniform religious or other ceremony being required.[296] However bishop Ignatius of Antioch writing around 110 to bishop Polycarp of Smyrna exhorts "[I]t becomes both men and women who marry to form their union with the approval of the bishop that their may be according to God and not after their. 6/25/2015 “The happiness podcasts are wonderful to listen to during my morning routine I feel awakened to quiet literally They are a great reminder to be present during the day Thank you for improving humanity.” – Lynsey J 9/11/2014 “I have read two of Dr Puffs books now I highly recommend “Holistic Success” helps tremendously with setting yourself up for success by being able to really look at your true self and set yourself on the right path! Focusing on the small details that make up the big picture in and of our lives.” –. According to some estimates there wasn't even 1% of divorce among Hindu arranged s.[257] Buddhism Main article: Buddhist view of The Buddhist view of considers a secular affair and thus not a sacrament Buddhists are expected to follow the civil laws regarding laid out by their respective governments Gautama Buddha being a kshatriya was required by Shakyan tradition to pass a series of tests to prove himself as a warrior before he was allowed. 4/23/2017 “I love The Happiness Podcast I have listened to 3-4 podcasts a day for the last two years and it and meditation have helped me to be a much happier person But recently the feed (since #113) has not been downloading even though I am subscribed in iTunes.” – Carol S 4/18/2017 “I happened upon Dr Puff’s podcast and I listen to it at the start of my workout at the gym He is very sensible and down to earth and I always feel better after I listen to the podcast of the week I am an optimistic person by nature but Dr Puff helps me realize that I can control my own happiness more than I previously thought.” – Barbara P. 3/28/2017 “I don’t usually leave reviews on anything but I recently started listening to Dr Puff and I have to admit he’s been really helpful I listen to his podcast every night and he has helped me become a happier person.” – Michael S 2/23/2017 “I have been so negative lately and it has been hard for me just to stop and enjoy things and be happy in the moment I started listening to the happiness podcast and in just one week I am so much more optimistic and i enjoy every moment of living even when bad things happen to me I have learned to adapt and just be so much more free and loving One cliché to describe Dr Puff: Good Vibes.” – Kirsten M. 8/30/2014 “I have been going to Dr Puff’s weekly meditation group on Wednesday evenings with my significant other for a few weeks now Originally I wasn’t sure if I was going to like it or not but now I look forward to going every week Dr Puff has an encouraging way of motivating me to incorporate meditation in my daily I can already see the benefits Not only is the meditation helpful but I enjoy the discussions we have after the meditation along with Dr Puff insightful input.” – Allison L. Our Renewal Weekend with Cornerstone was the best thing that ever happened to us and our We had been to counseling two different times but what we learned on our weekend greatly surpassed all of it The weekend saved our We now have tools to help us through struggles and trials we… Read more “Linda W.” 1/1/2017 “Review of dr puff’s podcast … what a wonderful and beautiful Podcast that Dr Puff has … his “happiness podcast” is a gem and an oasis of positivity He has a gift of speaking calmly but effectively and conveying important points about thoughts and living in relatively short podcast episodes.I have picked up and learned something in every episode Thank you Dr Puff.” – Patrick A 12/16/2016 “I have started meeting with Dr Puff meditation class and must say it really does help me with my daily stress Pretty nice guy as well Would recommend.” – Richard L. Ask God to make you aware of the ways you have hurt your mate and to give you humility to confess those hurts to Him and your mate Ask Him to give you the empathy for your spouse that you need to understand how those hurts have harmed your Listen to your partner’s version of what’s happened without getting defensive Consider how that knowledge can broaden your perspective on your relationship Confess your wrongs specifically to God and your spouse Decide to turn away from your sins and move in the opposite direction Be willing to listen to your spouse express his or her hurt feelings If there is a major hurt and significant anger this should be done with a Christian counselor. “we’ve been married 8 years If you’d asked me a week ago “Where do you see yourself in a week?” I would have said “In a very nasty divorce ruining the lives of our two beautiful children” Instead I will be able to share with friends and family this amazing weekend and this amazing journey… Read more “Jared S.” The American Association of Christian Counselors The and Family Counselors Network Christian Counselors of Texas The Association of and Family Ministries 9/11/2015 “I’m obviously not anywhere near Newport Beach right now but I found Dr Puff’s blog and podcast online I was initially drawn in by the name but he’s seriously good His happiness podcasts helped me reevaluate my and reconsider my dependence on some very negative people The information is good he doesn’t use a load of medical mumbo-jumbo and his voice is pleasant to listen to I’d definitely recommend his website and podcast to people who want to get their lives in track and are feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything.” –. Trust is perhaps the most foundational ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife It takes a very short time to destroy trust and a much longer time to rebuild it Trust must be cultivated and nurtured Rebuilding it requires that you consistently monitor your behavior being very careful how you treat each other This is the key to building a strong relationship and trust If you want to restore your you need. “this weekend was the best decision my husband and I ever made Recovering from an affair was something I wasn’t sure was possible considering all the marital issues we had before it This weekend gave me the power to forgive my spouse I have totally recommitted my to God as well My husband and… Read more “Ashley S.” Like other close relationships exerts considerable influence on health.[259] Married people experience lower morbidity and mortality across such diverse health threats as cancer heart attacks and surgery.[260] Research on and health is part of the broader study of the benefits of social relationships. Jesus’ work on the cross is the ultimate model of reconciliation Ephesians 4:31-32 says “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you along with all malice And be kind to one another tender-hearted forgiving each other just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” Ask Him to guide you and work through you with His power as you strive to reconcile with your spouse If either of you haven’t yet begun a relationship with Jesus Christ do so now Surrender your to Him and ask Him to forgive you of your sins Accept His forgiveness and begin to live. 11/3/2015 “Thank you for sharing your love Dr Puff! When I listen to you you never fail to inspire me!” – Candice G 9/23/2015 “Dr Puff’s Happiness podcast has helped me get through a really rough time in both my personal and professional He changed my perspective on a day-to-day basis and it made me a happier healthier person with healthier relationships I cannot thank Dr Puff enough -changing is the right word to describe his work.” –. “thank you for your ministry and for giving us hope and “how to’s” and thank you for helping me realize that divorce is not the answer I looked at my kids today and cried with gratitude that they got back the Daddy they have always loved.” I have utilized these principles and insights in my pastoral counseling and ministry for the past thirteen years We have taught them in our classes s and seminars Through the use of these proven practical ways of restoring a painful relationship we have seen many couples resolve their conflicts successfully and grow more deeply in love with each other than they had ever been before The path to restore your is within grasp My wife Sue and I teach these principles and applications in our “New Beginning” and “Keeping Love Alive,” Renewal Weekends In this booklet we want to share with you important guidelines to help you get started on the process of healing your We want to help you to restore your 4/22/2015 “Dr Puff is extremely knowledgeable and highly experienced His happiness podcasts cover a wide variety of feelings and experiences and his techniques can be applied to any situation Depression and difficult experiences can often make people feel unmotivated helpless and hopeless Dr Puff ‘ s podcasts offer tools that can be used immediately by anyone.” – Heather S. “after 18 years of my husband and I had so many walls built up between us that we weren’t sure if our would survive This gave us the opportunity to break those walls down in a constructive way We can now start fresh in our and experience the fullness of God intended.… Read more “Angie O.” Most of us tend to deal with the pain and difficulties in our lives by coping not by changing We modify what we do but somehow down deep at the core we have only partially dealt with it Change as Jesus describes it involves more than just cleaning up our visible act He intends us to do more than white wash the exterior of the house; He wants us to go inside and clean house and do something about the filth beneath the carpet What have you done or failed to do in this relationship that has contributed to the problems? How are you reacting to your mate? What are your weaknesses that need to be addressed? Are you willing to look within and find out? Are you willing to get real and be as honest as you possibly can? Until you face where you’ve missed the target you can’t get back on center. For several years Dr Puff was the number one ranked individual on Google search engines in the entire U.S for the term “clinical psychologist.” He is regularly sought by the media for his expertise on a variety of mental health issues and has been quoted in the media over 1000 times He co-hosted the weekly TV program The Holistic Success Show which was featured on the Discovery Channel’s Fit TV for six months He also hosts The Happiness Podcast a podcast focusing on ways for all of us to find happiness which has been downloaded over 4 million times around the world since its inception For years Dr Puff has been a regular blogger for Psychology Today. Economic anthropologist Duran Bell has criticized the legitimacy-based definition on the basis that some societies do not require for legitimacy He argued that a legitimacy-based definition of is circular in societies where illegitimacy has no other legal or social implications for a child other than the mother being unmarried.[7] In various jurisdictions a civil may take place as part of the religious ceremony although they are theoretically distinct Some jurisdictions allow civil s in circumstances which are notably not allowed by particular religions such as same-sex s or civil unions. If your mate or your is to be rescued from the kingdom of darkness you must continually fight this battle in prayer Jesus has given you authority over all the supernatural power of the enemy “Behold I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy and nothing shall by any means hurt you” (Luke 10:19) Your authority is not based on your power or ability but on the powerful name of Jesus Hold your up to God in prayer and ask the Father to heal your bring reconciliation and restore your love Pray and “Pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17) Never give up! Don’t get discouraged if you don’t see immediate results Remember God works according to his timing and not ours You must simply do your part and leave the rest. 12/4/2015 “Dr Puff taught me a very practical way to integrate meditation into my and this has helped me overcome a lot of my depression and anxiety problems His understanding wisdom and knowledge as well as his peaceful demeanor have helped me learn to enjoy this more Also my energy level and moods are way better and I have found greater success at work and in my personal too So glad to have learned so much about mental and spiritual health from Dr Puff I highly recommend checking out all he has to offer to anyone seeking a more happy and contented Thank you Dr Puff for the good work you do!” – Hilary A. The age of was not absolute however as child s occurred throughout the Middle Ages and later with just some of them including: To prohibit incest and eugenic reasons laws have set restrictions for relatives to marry Direct blood relatives are usually prohibited to marry while for branch line relatives laws. It’s always easy to look at the other person and see how they’ve disappointed us to see what they’ve done wrong in the Jesus said “Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold the log is in your own eye” (Matthew 7:3-4) ? Be willing to look at yourself in the mirror instead of grabbing the microscope to look at your er what habits actions or words of yours have hurt your spouse and your Take responsibility for the mistakes you’ve made Try to discover the bad patterns and habits you may have fallen into. Lack of communication caused built up resentments which led to anger and eventually the breakdown of our My husband began to do drugs to cope and I began to drink Our teenage daughter was desperately trying to escape our wrecked family On a Sunday after 15 years of I told my husband I… Read more “Katie M.” In many countries today each partner has the choice of keeping his or her property separate or combining properties In the latter case called community property when the ends by divorce each owns half In lieu of a will or trust property owned by the deceased generally is inherited by the surviving spouse. 7/19/2015 “Soothing and meditative podcasts I’ve been listening to Dr Puff’s podcasts for the last few days where he explores issues related to happiness: what it means to be happy and how to achieve contentment in The setup of his podcasts is simple (him speaking over what sounds like a faint excerpt of Bach’s The Well-Tempered Clavier) but the format works amazingly well The simplicity of the format means less distraction from the weighty themes he’s wrestling with such as the nature of happiness and how dreams relate to it These are really soothing to listen to before bedtime and they’ve already given me food for thought about how to evaluate my Highly recommended for anyone out there who’s reflective and wants five minutes of enrichment to start the day.” –. The Nazi ban on interracial and interracial sex was enacted in September 1935 as part of the Nuremberg Laws the Gesetz zum Schutze des deutschen Blutes und der deutschen Ehre (The Law for the Protection of German Blood and German Honour) The Nuremberg Laws classified Jews as a race and forbade and extramarital sexual relations at first with people of Jewish descent but was later ended to the "Gypsies Negroes or their bastard offspring" and people of "German or related blood".[110] Such relations were marked as Rassenschande (lit "race-disgrace") and could be punished by imprisonment (usually followed by deportation to a concentration camp) and even. Direct Dowry contrasts with bridewealth which is paid by the groom or his family to the bride's parents and with indirect dowry (or dower) which is property given to the bride herself by the groom at the time of and which remains under her ownership and control.[89] We recently hosted “Keeping Love Alive,” a enrichment seminar presented by Roy and Sue Milam of Cornerstone and Family Ministries Roy and Sue’s practical insights and transparency had a profound effect on our couples They spoke from a wealth of understanding and personal experience that hit the issues our couples were facing head-on.… Read more “Denny Dillon” In The History of Human (1922) Edvard Westermarck defined as "a more or less durable connection between male and female lasting beyond the mere act of propagation till after the birth of the offspring."[9] In The Future of in Western Civilization (1936) he rejected his earlier definition instead provisionally defining as "a relation of one or more men to one or more women that is recognized by custom. Polyandry is notably more rare than polygyny though less rare than the figure commonly cited in the Ethnographic Atlas (1980) which listed only those polyandrous societies found in the Himalayan Mountains More recent studies have found 53 societies outside the 28 found in the Himalayans which practice polyandry.[30] It is most common in egalitarian societies marked by high male mortality or male absenteeism It is associated with partible paternity the cultural belief that a child can have more than one father.[31] In England and Wales since 1837 civil s have been recognized as a legal alternative to church s under the Act 1836 In Germany civil s were recognized in 1875 This law permitted a declaration of the before an official clerk of the civil administration when both spouses affirm their will to marry to constitute a legally recognized valid and effective and allowed an optional private clerical ceremony. These steps are necessary to prepare the ground for trust to grow again A spouse’s dedication transparency and honesty will serve as vital nutrients to enrich this soil Constant prayer will water the soil and in time trust will grow again As you go forward in the healing process know that you’ll have good days and bad days You’ll experience progress as well as setbacks This process is never easy for either partner But it will be the most worthwhile process you have ever undertaken You will learn and you will grow Remember God is for you and He can see beyond the present when you cannot He is good all the time even when your and seem to be falling apart Trust in Him to make a way. While child is observed for both boys and girls the overwhelming majority of child spouses are girls.[44] In many cases only one -partner is a child usually the female due to the importance placed upon female virginity.[39] Causes of child include poverty bride price dowry laws that allow child s religious and social pressures regional customs fear of remaining unmarried and perceived inability of women to work. My is undeniably better when I pray for my spouse With this incentive I’ve come to realize how important it is to pray for everything: simple blessings for God’s mercy and peace in our home; complicated requests such as how to communicate in a way Sue will understand; and even prayers I don’t really want to pray-that I may recognize my sin and that God will change me into the husband Sue needs Prayer is your greatest and most powerful weapon in the struggle to maintain your Prayer is a powerful tool that can help you restore your It is possible for two people to be recognised as married by a religious or other institution but not by the state and hence without the legal rights and obligations of ; or to have a civil deemed invalid and sinful by a religion Similarly a couple may remain married in religious eyes after a civil divorce. We had experienced many terrible hurts in our 19 years of I had severely neglected and mistreated my wife and she had ended up in an affair Our was filled with anger distrust and bitterness There was no love affection or closeness between us and were no longer soul mates we had once… Read more “Mark K.” 2 Pray for Your Mate Your and Yourself Begin to pray everyday for your spouse Believe God for a miracle in your Psalm 77:14 says “You are the God who performs miracles.” The Bible makes it clear that God wants people to stay married We need to expect God to supernaturally intervene in our circumstances Unbelief and fear paralyzes us and causes us to believe our problems are too big for God We need to believe that God can still move mountains Jesus said “According to your faith will it be done to you” (Matthew 9:29) Stormie Omartian in her book The Power of a Praying Wife suggests praying this prayer. There has been a trend toward the neolocal residence in western societies.[98] The financial aspects of vary between cultures and have changed over time In some cultures dowries and bridewealth continue to be required today In both cases the financial arrangements are usually made between the groom (or his family) and the bride's family; with the bride often not being involved in the negotiations and often not having a choice in whether to participate in the In Early modern Britain the social status of the couple was supposed to be equal After the all the property (called "fortune") and expected inheritances of the wife belonged to the husband. Since the late twentieth century major social changes in Western countries have led to changes in the demographics of with the age of first increasing fewer people marrying and more couples choosing to cohabit rather than marry For example the number of s in Europe decreased by 30% from. In some societies ranging from Central Asia to the Caucasus to Africa the custom of bride kidnapping still exists in which a woman is captured by a man and his friends Sometimes this covers an elopement but sometimes it depends on sexual violence In previous times raptio was a larger-scale version of this with groups of women captured by groups of men sometimes in war; the most famous example is The Rape of the Sabine Women which provided the first citizens of Rome with. “before we came to the renewal weekend we were distant cold and angry with each other Our only communication was arguing Our was so bad that we didn’t say a word to each other on the way to the But this was the shot in the arm our so desperately needed.… Read more “Anonymous 7” News Report: 54 Children 32 Adults Saved Imminent Distress of Family Breakdown Locations: Dallas Texas & Indianapolis Indiana A New Beginning Renewal Date: April 1-3 2016 & April 29-May 1 2016 Before this weekend my was full of anger resentment and little hope The projects on confession and forgiveness… Read more “Amazing Testimonies of. Each religious authority has rules for the manner in which s are to be conducted by their officials and members Where religious s are recognised by the state the officiator must also conform with the law of the jurisdiction. “this was our ‘Miracle Weekend.’ Experiencing the biblical steps to truly forgive my husband and let go was amazing I’ve opened up to hearing and accepting what God wants to change in me Prior to the weekend I didn’t believe I was critical or unforgiving but I saw how I have been both – I… Read more “Anonymous 5” In contemporary English common law a is a voluntary contract by a man and a woman in which by agreement they choose to become husband and wife.[324] Edvard Westermarck proposed that "the institution of has probably developed out of a primeval habit".[325] As of 2000 the average age range was 25–44 years for men and 22–39 years. Contact Dr Taryn Neal Ed.D: (425) 829-5435 drtarynneal@ (3) The counselor’s own values about relationships definitely plays a part in what he or she does and is interested in when working with you Although some people want their counselors to tell when a person should stop trying to work on their counselors really don’t have this right If they say things like “It seems that you are incompatible,” or “Why are you willing to put up with this?” or “It is time to move on with your ” they are simply imposing their non-biblical values on you This is an unethical act in my opinion (4) Make sure you (and your partner) and your counselor set concrete goals early on If you don’t you will probably meet each week with no clear direction Once you set goals you should never lose sight of them If you don’t begin to see some progress within two or three sessions you should address your concern with your counselor. Some countries such as Australia permit s to be held in private and at any location; others including England and Wales require that the civil ceremony be conducted in a place open to the public and specially sanctioned by law for the purpose In England the place of formerly had to be a church or register office but this was extended to any public venue with the necessary licence An exception can be made in the case of by special emergency license (UK: licence) which is normally granted only when one of the parties is terminally ill Rules about where and when persons can marry vary from place to place Some regulations require one of the parties to reside within the jurisdiction of the register office (formerly parish). Think about it You don’t like to be pressured fixed demanded upon controlled or manipulated to change either That’s probably how your spouse feels if you’re pressuring him or her to make the better for your sake Trying to change your spouse will likely cause him or her to feel anxious angry and discouraged and to back away from you and resist you Developing a better begins with being willing to examine your own part in your troubles and become a better spouse yourself If you want to restore your it is absolutely crucial that you accept responsibility for your own mistakes in the relationship rather than blaming your spouse and demanding your spouse to change Know that only God has the power to change your spouse Learn to focus on what God wants you to do Believe that you can improve with God’s help. “God is so good! He is working in our and we are seeing a remarkable difference I know now beyond any doubt that I am blessed with such a wonderful wife Our relationship has been so much better and we’re much closer than in the past Last week we had a wonderful anniversary celebration.… Read more “Anonymous 9” Monogamy is a form of in which an individual has only one spouse during their time or at any one time (serial monogamy). He will have no fear of bad news; his heart is steadfast trusting in the LORD His heart is secure he will have no fear; in the end he will look in triumph on his foes (New International Version) Forgiveness cannot be disregarded if true recovery is desired Restoring trust requires reconciliation Taking adequate time paying attention to detail and receiving the objective help of a Christian counselor may be essential for the future of your relationship Sin gains its strength from secrecy Reconciliation gains strength by bringing the secret sin to light While rebuilding trust a truly repentant spouse will show evidence by taking the initiative to restore trust in the The following is strong advice to a spouse who is sincere about repairing a damaged : Introduction of same-sex laws has varied by jurisdiction being variously accomplished through a legislative change to laws a court ruling based on constitutional guarantees of equality or by direct popular vote (via an initiative or a referendum) The recognition of same-sex is a political social civil rights and religious issue in many nations and debates continue to arise over whether same-sex couples should be allowed be required to hold a different status (a civil union) or be denied recognition of such rights Allowing same-gender couples to legally marry is considered to be one of the most important of all LGBT rights. News Report: 54 Children & 36 Adults Saved From Impending Collapse Location: Dallas Texas Event: A New Beginning Renewal Date: June 24-26 2016 First-Hand Accounts From Those Rescued “My wife and I had hardly spoken in months The projects and counseling helped us get back to a point where we are now communicating…. In fact when problems and conflicts are worked through they can strengthen the love in a relationship and provide an opportunity for a couple to grow and learn and move to a higher level of mutual satisfaction in their Recognizing the need to deal with problems and conflict can help restore your as you go through them together Relationship struggles often reveal that there are some things that we have not understood about our partner and vice versa They often reflect the stock pile of unmet needs that have occurred They may even indicate areas of neglect misunderstanding and differences They show us that there is work to be done in the relationship. The 1975 European Convention on the Legal Status of Children Born out of Wedlock protects the rights of children born to unmarried parents.[198] The convention states among others that: "The father and mother of a child born out of wedlock shall have the same obligation to maintain the child as if it were born in wedlock" and that "A child born out of wedlock shall have the same right of succession in the estate of its father and its mother and of a member of its father's or mother's family as if it had been born in wedlock."[199] While in most Western countries legal inequalities between children born inside and outside have largely been abolished this is not the case in some parts of. Dr Puff’s Happiness Podcast which has been downloaded over 4 million times since its inception is packed with information and inspiration that will help you soar! (Start Listening) Corporate Training Is workplace negativity holding your company back? What can you do to create positive happy experiences that make your team effective creative and much more productive? The Christian Church performed s in the narthex of the church prior to the 16th century when the emphasis was on the marital contract and betrothal Subsequently the ceremony moved inside the sacristy of the church.[217][220] A child is a where one or both spouses are under the age of 18.[35][36] It is related to child betrothal and teenage pregnancy. Call: (281) 304-1500 Verified by imageframe-2 img{border:0px solid #f6f6f6;} Dr Puff is a featured blogger at Psychology Today click read subscribe In relationships the root cause of unhappiness is a lack of unconditional love and acceptance Controlling demanding and unrealistic expectations are just symptoms of that cause When we stop seeing as an obligation for our partner to fill our expectations and instead see it as an opportunity to learn to truly accept our spouse for who he or she is we take a major step in seeing our s become happy and fulfilling. It requires us to let go of old dysfunctional ways of thinking and behaving and to take risks set goals and rely on the Spirit of God to free us from strongholds and empower us to “put on the new self who is being renewed to a true knowledge according to the image of the One who created him”(Colossians 3:10) God wants to transform us through the renewing of our minds and give us new ways of thinking interacting responding and behaving (Romans 8:31) Each of those things involves one very crucial element; the element of “choice.” Change starts with a decision and is accomplished through ongoing “moments of decision,” where we choose in that moment to think and act in a new and different way 6 Reach Out For Support For a Muslim wedding to take place the bridegroom and the guardian of the bride (wali) must both agree on the Should the guardian disagree on the it may not legally take place If the wali of the girl her father or paternal grandfather he has the right to force her into even against her proclaimed will if it is her first A guardian who is allowed to force the bride into is called wali mujbir.[244] The explanation for polyandry in the Himalayan Mountains is related to the scarcity of land; the of all brothers in a family to the same wife (fraternal polyandry) allows family land to remain intact and undivided If every brother married separately and had children family land would be split into unsustainable small plots In Europe this was prevented through the social practice of impartible inheritance (the dis-inheriting of most siblings some of whom went on to become celibate monks and priests).[32] When we ask the Lord to help us let go of bitterness judgement and condemnation and began to release it to Him we will soon be aware of remarkable changes taking place within us The Holy Spirit will begin a wonderful work of healing in our lives and we will be set free from the tyranny of our bitterness and resentment Whenever you remember the offense remind yourself that you have chosen to forgive Symbolize your act of forgiving with your partner in some way such as by taking communion together or renewing your wedding vows 8 Meet Your Spouse’s Most Important Emotional Needs “we saw how powerless we were to help ourselves; but that was good for we put everything into the hands of God who alone could save us…2 Corinthians 1:9 Because we are powerless we need to call on the power of the Holy Spirit in our We need power that is beyond us to overcome our sinful tendencies and to enable us to be the husband and wife that God would have us to be God provides this power through the person of the Holy Spirit God the Holy Spirit wants to help you succeed in your The Holy Spirit is available to help every believing Christian and He can help you to restore your At the moment we receive Jesus Christ as our personal Savior the Holy Spirit comes into our lives permanently to indwell us Christ promises “You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you” (Acts 1:8a). It was difficult for Ben to listen empathically But when he quit defending himself and was able to really listen to Janet he was able to feel her pain When he felt the magnitude of her pain he repented of his wrong and asked for her forgiveness As a result their was healed You can restore your too when you take the path of reconciliation with your spouse Once you have been forgiven demonstrate your newfound integrity to your spouse in tangible ways (such as by keeping your promises) Embrace God’s forgiveness and grace to do better. When the rates applied by the tax code are not based income averaging but rather on the sum of individuals' incomes higher rates will usually apply to each individual in a two-earner households in a progressive tax systems This is most often the case with high-income taxpayers and is another situation called a penalty.[91] The woman said to the serpent “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden 3 but God did say ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden and you must not touch it or you will die.’ “ “You will not surely die,” the serpent said to the woman 5 “For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened and you will be like God knowing good and evil.” When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye and also desirable for gaining wisdom she took some and ate it She also gave some to her husband who was with her and he ate it Then the eyes of both of them were opened and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves (Gen 3:1-7) South Africa under apartheid also banned interracial The Prohibition of Mixed s Act 1949 prohibited between persons of different races and the Immorality Act of 1950 made sexual relations with a person of a different race. Polygyny usually grants wives equal status although the husband may have personal preferences One type of de facto polygyny is concubinage where only one woman gets a wife's rights and status while other women remain legal house mistresses.

In his research laboratory at the University of Washington psychologist John Gottman has been studying married couples for more than twenty years He has found that the most destructive characteristics in a relationship what he calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (1) criticism (2) contempt (3) defensiveness and (4) stonewalling The first two traits suggest that one partner has a lot of trouble accepting the other one; the second two are typical reactions of not feeling accepted The importance of acceptance has also been documented by other researchers who have found that an inability to accept differences is a leading predictor of failure in In short these factors can be a detriment to your attempt to restore your Obviously this article is not meant to take the place of extensive counseling or the reading of more exhaustive manuals It is meant to help you get started in the right direction by providing you with an overview of the steps it will take to restore your and rebuild your relationships: 1 Admit You Are Powerless Remember also to pray for yourself that you may find the strength and courage for the path you are on today David’s counsel is absolutely essential for your endurance: “Wait on the LORD; be of good courage and He shall strengthen your heart; wait I say on the LORD” (Ps 27:14) 3 Adjust your expectations Laws refer to the legal requirements which determine the validity of a which vary considerably between countries Rights and obligations See also: Matrimonial regime and Rights and responsibilities of s in the United States A bestows rights and obligations on the married parties and sometimes on relatives as well being the sole mechanism for the creation of affinal ties (in-laws) These may include depending on jurisdiction: Social ties provide people with a sense of identity purpose belonging and support.[261] Simply being married as well as the quality of one's have been linked to diverse measures of health.[259][clarification needed] 12/17/2014 “I met with Dr Puff and was higly impressed with his knowledge and expertise in his area He is a outstanding motivater and have great insight in the human way of Im looking forward to work with him in the future and attend his mediation class.” – Katarina M 7/1/2015 “I attended the group meditation and it was a good experience I look forward to attending again the group seems like a great way to ease into a practice.” – Marisa S. “but I fear lest by any means as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ” (2 Corinthians 11:3). “without a doubt this weekend saved my In fact it saved my After 27 years of I was ready to quit I was not sure I even wanted to go to the weekend Praise God that I did We had been hurting each other for so many years and had no… Read more “Audrey M.” A pragmatic (or 'arranged') is made easier by formal procedures of family or group politics A responsible authority sets up or encourages the ; they may indeed engage a professional matchmaker to find a suitable spouse for an unmarried person The authority figure could be parents family a religious official or a group consensus In some cases the authority figure may choose a match for purposes other than marital harmony.[citation needed] The Bible makes it clear that God wants people to stay married When our vows are tested with sickness poverty or tough times if we cry out to God He hears us During our darkest moments the Psalms remind us God understands our situation and will help In my the times that have been hardest have also been the times I’ve experienced God’s rewards in the most amazing ways Isaiah 64:4-5 says “No eye has seen any God besides you who acts on behalf of those who wait for him You come to the help of those who gladly. James 5:16 teaches us that “The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and wonderful results” Do you want to exert great power upon your mate’s heart and mind? If so then pray for your mate Keep asking God to work in your mate and to touch your mate’s heart to soften the hardness and to break Satan’s blinding power in his or her Do you want to see wonderful results in your ? If you do then pray for your When Jesus healed a demon possessed man He explained His method of setting people free from Satan’s power: “How can one enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods unless he first binds the strong man? And then he will plunder his house” (Matthew 12:29). Home » Christian Counseling Help Resources » Ten Steps to Restore Your Ten Steps to Restore Your. In the US studies have shown that despite egalitarian ideals being common less than half of respondents viewed their opposite-sex relationships as equal in power with unequal relationships being more commonly dominated by the male partner.[138] Studies also show that married couples find the highest level of satisfaction in egalitarian relationships and lowest levels of satisfaction in wife dominate relationships.[138] In recent years egalitarian or Peer s have been receiving increasing focus and attention politically economically and culturally in a number of countries including the United States. Conversely when progressive tax is levied on the individual with no consideration for the partnership dual-income couples fare much better than single-income couples with similar household incomes The effect can be increased when the welfare system treats the same income as a shared income thereby denying welfare access to the non-earning spouse Such systems apply in Australia and Canada for example.[citation needed] “well none of this was true and defending myself only made things worse When I forced myself to listen to her; empathize with her and acknowledge her hurt feelings as hard as it was it helped her to heal And going through that pain with her convinced me that I would never ever in my no matter how great the temptation cheat on Janet again.” “At one point Janet told me that my affair caused her more pain than a miscarriage she’d had early in our I wanted to believe she was exaggerating – because that experience almost devastated her – but when I realized she was being honest I broke down and wept myself How could I have inflicted such incredible pain on someone I loved. Anthropologist Jack Goody's comparative study of around the world utilizing the Ethnographic Atlas found a strong correlation between intensive plough agriculture dowry and monogamy This pattern was found in a broad swath of Eurasian societies from Japan to Ireland The majority of Sub-Saharan African societies that practice extensive hoe agriculture in contrast show a correlation between "bride price" and polygamy.[16] A further study drawing on the Ethnographic Atlas showed a statistical correlation between increasing size of the society the belief in "high gods" to support human morality and monogamy.[17] We were on the road to a possible divorce It was a that was complacent unloving and uncaring We had been unable unable to work out issues and we had definitely lost that “loving feeling” Growing up in church with a strong faith in God I never thought I needed counseling This was… Read more “First-Hand Accounts From Those Rescued” The Holy Spirit is God with all the attributes only God can have Not only is the Holy Spirit all-powerful but like God the Father and God the Son He has a personality and we can come to know Him personally He has feelings and can be grieved by our actions (Ephesians 4:30) He can be obeyed or disobeyed (Acts 10:19-20) Because we have earthly models of fathers and sons it is often easier to identify with and rely upon God the Father and Jesus It is harder to identify with a spirit Yet in we can’t afford to miss out on the powerful ministry that the Holy Spirit offers you to restore your “but if he would just change…then I’d feel so much more loved,” wives often say to me Similarly husbands say “If she would change… then I’d be happy.” I believe there are few things more harmful to a relationship than pressuring your spouse to change This kind of thinking just doesn’t work for two reasons: First because you can’t change someone else You can only change yourself Secondly trying to change your spouse will create tension in your relationship and actually discourage him or her from changing And besides even if your spouse did change he or she wouldn’t feel very good about the relationship until you made some changes yourself. Fox argues that "the major difference between polygyny and monogamy could be stated thus: while plural mating occurs in both systems under polygyny several unions may be recognized as being legal s while under monogamy only one of the unions is so recognized Often however it is difficult to draw a hard and fast line between. In the countries which do not permit polygamy a person who marries in one of those countries a person while still being lawfully married to another commits the crime of bigamy In all cases the second is considered legally null and void Besides the second and subsequent s being void the bigamist is also liable to other penalties which also vary between jurisdictions. 6/19/2016 “I am so appreciative of how Dr Puff makes himself and his approach so accessible through his podcasts and meditation group These resources make it easy to practice his steady insightful patient and wise approach to and happiness Thank you for the regular dose of inspiration!!!!!” – Donna D 6/9/2016 “I’m so grateful to have discovered Dr Puff’s free meditation group on Meetup In just 1 month of attending on Wednesday nights I feel more calm and at peace with what is After meditation he is kind enough to share insights from his years in practice in an effort to help as many people as possible What a gift!” –. Women's health is more strongly impacted than men's by marital conflict or satisfaction such that unhappily married women do not enjoy better health relative to their single counterparts.[260][262][263] Most research on and health has focused on heterosexual couples; more work is needed to clarify the health impacts of same-sex [259] (1) Make sure your counselor is a Christian counselor and has received specific training (Biblical Pastoral and or Marital training) and is experienced in marital counseling counselors need to be skilled at helping people overcome the differences that naturally occur when two people live under the same roof They need to know Biblical truth and have a thorough understanding of God’s design for in order to help you restore your For this reason don’t be shy Ask your counselor about his or her training and experience. An Avunculate is a that occurs between an uncle and his niece or between an aunt and her nephew Such s are illegal in most countries due to incest restrictions However a small number of countries have legalized it including Argentina Australia Austria Malaysia,[73] and Russia.[74] “we came here threadbare… honestly believing divorce was an eventual reality for us We both dreaded it; but knew it was almost 100% assured The conference was like spiritual surgery Words can’t describe the transformative experience my wife and I had We left with a renewed commitment to Thank you for such a comprehensive,… Read more “J.A.” He regularly helps coach people and businesses all over the world via Skype FaceTime and phone He has authored 13 books on a variety of topics including relationships anger management holistic healing and happiness His two books Finding Our Happiness Flow and Anger Work: How to Express Your Anger and Still be Kind have made it on the Best Seller list at His book How to Live a Positive : The Art of Living Well was a #1 bestseller at iTunes books in the “Self-Improvement” category. “roy and Sue Milam of Cornerstone & Family Ministries faithfully served at Grace Community Church for ten years They developed and implemented a and family ministry at our church and organized a team of individuals to support and carry out the work Roy and Sue conducted ongoing skill classes and worked with… Read more “Steve Wriggle” 6/16/2015 “I love Dr Puff’s peaceful and positive approach to living I listen to his podcasts as often as I can as he not only explains the how’s and why’s of his topic but gives me tools I can use immediately He is very earnest in sharing his rich vast knowledge regarding how to live a happy peaceful and beneficial Listening to Dr Puff I always feel a little happier (and a little more awake) :)” –. As noted above several kinds of same-sex non-sexual s exist in some lineage-based societies This section relates to same-sex sexual unions Some cultures include third gender (two-spirit or transgender) individuals such as the berdache of the Zuni in New Mexico We'wha one of the most revered Zuni elders (an Ihamana spiritual leader) served as an emissary of the Zuni to Washington where he met President Grover Cleveland We'wha had a husband who was generally recognized. Throughout history and still today in many countries laws have provided for extenuating circumstances partial or complete defenses for men who killed their wives due to adultery with such acts often being seen as crimes of passion and being covered by legal defenses such as provocation or defense of family honor.[187] Dr Seghers holds a Ph.D in clinical psychology from Kent State University and is a licensed clinical psychologist (PSY 27484) in the state of California He has practiced counseling and psychotherapy since 2004 He has a background in psychological research and has published scientific papers in peer-reviewed journals and presented at international conferences Clinically he has been affiliated with the Rehabilitation Institute of Southern California Straight Talk Inc Summa Health System and most recently the Cleveland VA Medical Center. Most s encounter problems and conflicts sooner or later Some marital problems and conflicts can be anticipated and avoided others cannot be foreseen and must be dealt with and resolved as they come This takes the effort of both partners Marital problems are complex and there are no easy answers or quick solutions for most If they have been occurring over a long period of time the relationship may be at a point of crisis A crisis is very painful to go through but that does not mean the relationship should. The history of marriage is often considered under History of the family or legal history.[268] Ancient world Ancient Near East Many cultures have legends concerning the origins of marriage The way in which a marriage is conducted and its rules and ramifications has changed over time as has the institution itself depending on the culture or demographic of. 11/12/2014 “In a society that almost demands at double time speed and addictions numb us to our experiences and interferes with living a healthy and happy Come meditate with Dr Puff as a way to slow down to settle back into yourself and become present to the beautiful dream we call Dr Puff generously shares his gifts and lighting intelligence and together we create a heaven of warmth acceptance and laughter Join us as we practice how to watch our silly mind spins question our thoughts giggle at our urge to scratch our mosquito bite desires and attempt to live our as if everyday was a vacation It’s powerful it works but it does take effort Peace and love.” –. Zeitzen also notes that Western perceptions of African society and patterns are biased by "contradictory concerns of nostalgia for traditional African culture versus critique of polygamy as oppressive to women or detrimental to development."[24] Polygamy has been condemned as being a form of human rights abuse with concerns arising over domestic abuse forced and neglect The vast majority of the world's countries including virtually all of the world's developed nations do not permit polygamy There have been calls for the abolition of polygamy in developing countries. Polygamy is a which includes more than two partners.[20] When a man is married to more than one wife at a time the relationship is called polygyny and there is no bond between the wives; and when a woman is married to more than one husband at a time it is called polyandry and there is no bond between the husbands If a includes multiple husbands and/or wives it can be called group [20] (2) Make sure that your counselor is a Christian and a Biblical counselor Make sure that he or she is biased in the direction of helping you find solutions to your marital problems rather than helping you leave your when things get rocky Feel free to ask him or her to give you a ballpark figure about the percentage of couples he or she works with who leave with their s intact and are happier as a result of counseling Although your counselor may not have a specific answer his or her reaction to your question will speak volumes and give you insights as to whether or not he can help you restore your An absolute submission of a wife to her husband is accepted as natural in many parts of the world for instance surveys by UNICEF have shown that the percentage of women aged 15–49 who think that a husband is justified in hitting or beating his wife under certain circumstances is as high as 90% in Afghanistan and Jordan 87% in Mali 86% in Guinea and Timor-Leste 81% in Laos 80% in Central African Republic.[185] Detailed results from Afghanistan show that 78.4% of women agree with a beating if the wife "goes out without telling him [the husband]" and 76.2% agree "if she argues. The complexity stress and pain of a crisis often handicaps a couple’s ability to resourcefully resolve problems on their own For several reasons it is important to get help as soon as possible after you realize that your is in crisis First of all so that further damage can be controlled A crisis can have a negative domino effect and intervention is commonly required in order to alter the negative course Secondly because a crisis puts your relationship in a very vulnerable position. Among ancient Germanic tribes the bride and groom were roughly the same age and generally older than their Roman counterparts at least according to Tacitus: The youths partake late of the pleasures of love and hence pass the age of puberty unexhausted: nor are the virgins hurried into ; the same maturity the same full growth is required: the sexes unite equally matched and robust; and the children inherit the vigor of their parents.[293] Historically and still in many countries children born outside suffered severe social stigma and discrimination In England and Wales such children were known as bastards and whoresons There are significant differences between world regions in regard to the social and legal position of non-marital births ranging from being fully accepted and uncontroversial to being severely stigmatized and discriminated.[196][197] .imageframe-1 img{border:0px solid #f6f6f6;} Dr Robert Puff Ph.D has been recognized as one of the top Newport Beach Psychology practices. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man and he brought her to the man The man said "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh.[Genesis 2:22–24] So they are no longer two but one Therefore what God has joined together let man not separate. Although a society may be classified as polygynous not all s in it necessarily are; monogamous s may in fact predominate It is to this flexibility that Anthropologist Robin Fox attributes its success as a social support system: "This has often meant – given the imbalance in the sex ratios the higher male infant mortality the shorter span of males the loss of males in wartime etc – that often women were left without financial support from husbands To correct this condition females had to be killed at birth remain single become prostitutes or be siphoned off into celibate religious orders Polygynous systems have the advantage that they can promise as did the Mormons a home and family for.

Before the Apostle Paul laid out His divinely-inspired directions for Christian s and families in Ephesians 5:22-6:4 he grounded and family in the Spirit-filled worshipping community of God (Eph 5:18-21): “And do not get drunk with wine for that is dissipation but be filled with the Spirit speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord; always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God even the Father; submitting to one another in the fear of Christ”(Ephesians 5:22-33) Successful Christian s are grounded in a Spirit-filled worshipping community Without the instruction encouragement equipping and accountability found in the fellowship of the Church a Christian will die a slow and agonizing death. 3/19/2016 “After going through a difficult struggle I realized that I was the problem So I decited that I needed help so I can create better experiences for myself What a better way than to get therapy! After doing research I came across Dr Robert Puffs happiness podcast I would listen to them randomly but once the new year started I thought it would be a great idea to listen to all of his podcasts starting from number one I have listened to all 86 of them! I’m so glad i did! It has really opened up my mind to so many different things My favorite was not being attached to things because thats what creates suffering.I love listening to him so much Everything about it The intro music his hypnotic voice his stories and most of all his wisdom! I’m really grateful for his happiness podcast.” –. As human beings we are incredibly intricate with a complexity of emotional needs that must be satisfied These needs include our needs for attention respect appreciation approval sexual fulfillment support comfort security etc and determine our sense of emotional well-being In our emotional needs were meant to be met both by our relationship with God and through our relationship with our spouse That’s precisely what God intended to be; a committed intimate relationship that provides a supply of love to meet one another’s most important emotional needs To build a satisfying and lasting you and your mate must be committed to meeting each other’s physical and emotional needs. A dowry is "a process whereby parental property is distributed to a daughter at her (i.e inter vivos) rather than at the holder's death (mortis causa)… A dowry establishes some variety of conjugal fund the nature of which may vary widely This fund ensures her support (or endowment) in widowhood and eventually goes to provide for her sons and daughters."[84] There is wide cross-cultural variation in the social rules governing the selection of a partner for There is variation in the degree to which partner selection is an individual decision by the partners or a collective decision by the partners' kin groups and there is variation in the rules regulating which partners are valid choices The United Nations World Fertility Report of 2003 reports that 89% of all people get married before age forty-nine.[58] The percent of women and men who marry before age forty-nine drops to nearly 50% in some nations and reaches near 100% in other nations.[59] Does acceptance mean you consider the other person to be perfect? Of course not It does not mean that you think their personality is without flaw or that everything they do is perfectly okay with you It does not mean that you don’t want them to be better Nobody is perfect and people will always have qualities we don’t like characteristics we find annoying and behavior that we wish they’d stop Acceptance is not the same as agreement Acceptance means that you recognize their essential worth and consider them to be deserving of your esteem and your love despite their imperfections. 9/14/2015 “The Happiness Podcast has greatly improved my I took the challenge to listen to it instead of the news during my commute to work I started on Janu and have gone through the series of all Happiness Podcasts many times I use Dr Puff’s wise counsel every day and it has made me happier I just feel very blessed to be able to use this excellent resource and highly commend it to others.” –. The Bahá'í Faith encourages and views it as a mutually strengthening bond but it is not obligatory A Bahá'í requires the couple to choose each other and then obtain the consent of all living parents.[213] “lord I pray for an end to this conflict and a breaking of the hold strife has on us Take away the hurt and the armor we’ve put on to protect ourselves Lift us out of the pit of unforgiveness Speak through us so that our words reflect Your love peace and reconciliation Tear down this wall between us and teach us how to walk through it Enable us to rise up from this paralysis and move into the healing and wholeness You have. “our was all but over We were separated for 7 months Toxins had invaded all parts of our once- Sacred partnership But a miracle of God happened this weekend– I’ve been saved on so many levels – my my my salvation— I owe it to Jesus He brought us here (over 1200… Read more “James A.” The anthropological handbook Notes and Queries (1951) defined as "a union between a man and a woman such that children born to the woman are the recognized legitimate offspring of both partners."[11] In recognition of a practice by the Nuer people of Sudan allowing women to act as a husband in certain circumstances (the ghost ) Kathleen Gough suggested modifying this to "a woman and one or more other persons."[12] Religious groups have differing views on the legitimacy of polygyny It is allowed in Islam and Confucianism Judaism and Christianity have mentioned practices involving polygyny in the past however outright religious acceptance of such practices was not addressed until its rejection in later passages They do explicitly prohibit polygyny today.

During the first half of the 20th century unmarried women in some Western countries were coerced by authorities to give their children up for adoption This was especially the case in Australia through the forced adoptions in Australia with most of these adoptions taking place between the 1950s and the 1970s In 2013 Julia Gillard then Prime Minister of Australia offered a national apology to those affected by the forced adoptions.[208][209] Decide what specific changes need to be made in your so that you can become a better partner Identify unhealthy patterns of behavior and decide what you can do to change those patterns The Bible is clear that while God loves us just the way we are He loves us too much to leave us that way One of His greatest desires for us is our growth and maturity; to conform us to the image of His son (Romans 8:29) This growth process involves change and sometimes change comes through crisis problems setbacks sin mistakes and failure The process of choosing to change involves us taking God’s hand and following and trusting Him to shape and form us He will never give us more than we can handle (I Corinthians 10:13) He can make all things to work together for good (Romans 8:28). “i have the world’s greatest And I talk laugh and love more now then at the most passionate period of our dating.” “For months after the affair I think the only two questions I asked Janet were ‘What can I do to make this up to you,’ and ‘What do you need from me to know I love you more than anyone in the world?” “It took a long time for her to answer me with anything other than “YOU CAN’T,” but eventually she gave me some ideas and I ran with them When she knew that I really meant it – that I would do anything and everything to make her happy – she started working with me on our ” 9 Rebuild Friendship. Since the 16th century five competing models of have shaped Protestant and legal tradition: Selfishness and love do not pians 2:3-4 says “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests but also for the interests of others.” Success in love is not about waiting to act until you feel like loving your spouse Instead even when you may not feel like it when you reach out to your spouse with caring actions that meet his or her most important emotional needs it will trigger the feeling of love in your spouse and hence a cycle of love In order for a to survive a crisis it has to improve and become better than ever Your efforts in this regard are to strive to meet all of your spouse’s emotional needs Ben says it took a long time to rebuild his but the results have amazed him. In most societies the death of one of the partners terminates the and in monogamous societies this allows the other partner to remarry though sometimes after a waiting or mourning period In some societies a can be annulled when an authority declares that a never happened Jurisdictions often have provisions for void s or voidable s. Needless to say certain things are unacceptable There are non-negotiable standards Physical abuse is one of them Repeated infidelity alcoholism and drug addiction may also be unacceptable Accepting behavior that crosses the line does not promote a healthy relationship nor is it a mark of wisdom You won’t be able to restore your by burying your head in the sand But short of putting up with what is truly intolerable the capacity for acceptance – hard as it sometimes is to achieve – is an essential ingredient of true love and a lasting 4 Resist. In 12th-century Europe women took the surname of their husbands and starting in the second half of the 16th century parental consent along with the church's consent was required for [298] An individual’s trust in God is the single most important factor in how he or she recovers When trust is damaged or destroyed a person needs to be as dependent and trusting on our Heavenly Father as a small child would depend and trust on a loving earthly parent In addition anything blocking an open relationship with God must be dealt with This includes: (1) facing and turning from one’s own sins and personal shortcomings (2) confessing these sins to God and (3) asking forgiveness Jesus reminds us to remove the log from our own eye before noticing the speck in another’s (Matthew 7:3-5) Trust in God will be the foundation upon which you begin to develop trust in your spouse Before trust can be restored in the relationship there must be sense of confidence that you are secure Your sense of confidence and security is ultimately tied to your confidence in God Psalm 112:7-8 says, The spiritual war for our s is won or lost on the battlefield of the mind Until a person recognizes this and begins to take steps to resist the enemy all other efforts to win the battle are futile The Apostle John tells us “Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world” (1 John 4:4) 5 Focus on Changing Yourself Not. As part of the Counter-Reformation in 1563 the Council of Trent decreed that a Roman Catholic would be recognized only if the ceremony was officiated by a priest with two witnesses The Council also authorized a Catechism issued in 1566 which defined as "The conjugal union of man and woman contracted between two qualified persons which obliges them to live together throughout "[214] “The secret to happiness is being glad about what you have while working toward making changes for an even better Any of us in any situation can be happy Let’s explore the possibilities together.” ~Dr Robert Puff Ph.D Clinical Psychologist Author International Speaker Media Expert “the weekend was incredible! After 18 years of and with two children our was in shambles Unresolved issues and painful events of the past had eroded our relationship to a point of despair We were disconnected and disgruntled basically just coexisting under the same roof with little or no intimacy just surviving living… Read more “C.K.” In some legal systems the partners in a are "jointly liable" for the debts of the This has a basis in a traditional legal notion called the "Doctrine of Necessities" whereby in a heterosexual a husband was responsible to provide necessary things for his wife Where this is the case one partner may be sued to collect a debt for which they did not expressly contract Critics of this practice note that debt collection agencies can abuse this by claiming an unreasonably wide range of debts to be expenses of the The cost of defense and the burden of proof is then placed on the non-contracting party to prove that the expense is not a debt of the family The respective maintenance obligations both during and eventually after a are regulated in most jurisdictions; alimony is one such method. Today child s are widespread in parts of the world; being most common in South Asia and sub-Saharan Africa with more than half of the girls in some countries in those regions being married before 18.[39] The incidence of child has been falling in most parts of the world In developed countries child is outlawed or restricted Girls who marry before 18 are at greater risk of becoming victims of domestic violence than those who marry later especially when they are married to a much. People have proposed arguments against for reasons that include political philosophical and religious criticisms; concerns about the divorce rate; individual liberty and gender equality; questioning the necessity of having a personal relationship sanctioned by government or religious authorities; or the promotion of celibacy for religious or philosophical reasons. As part of the Protestant Reformation the role of recording s and setting the rules for passed to the state reflecting Martin Luther's view that was a "worldly thing".[320] By the 17th century many of the Protestant European countries had a state involvement in In England under the Anglican Church by consent and cohabitation was valid until the passage of Lord Hardwicke's Act in 1753 This act instituted certain requirements for including the performance of a religious ceremony observed by witnesses.[321] In a Sikh the couple walks around the Guru Granth Sahib holy book four times and a holy man recites from it in the kirtan style The ceremony is known as 'Anand Karaj' and represents the holy union of two souls united as one Wicca Wiccan s are commonly known as handfastings Although handfastings vary for each Wiccan they often involve honoring Wiccan gods Sex is considered a pious and sacred activity.[258] “The secret to happiness is being glad about what you have while working toward making changes for an even better Any of us in any situation can be happy Let’s explore the possibilities together.” ~Dr Robert Puff Ph.D Counseling Into the tranquil beauty of this innocent garden the enemy crept Whispering to Adam and Eve – and hence to all of us – the serpent suggested “You can’t trust God…you’ve got to take matters into your own control… then you’ll be like God.” Adam looked on silently while his wife’s doubt led to disobedience Passively yet willingly her husband joined her in a definitive act of disobedience to. Contact Fawn: (541) 944-7711 Early theories explaining the determinants of postmarital residence[94] connected it with the sexual division of labor However to date cross-cultural tests of this hypothesis using worldwide samples have failed to find any significant relationship between these two variables However Korotayev's tests show that the female contribution to subsistence does correlate significantly with matrilocal residence in general However this correlation is masked by a general polygyny factor. (6) Finally the best way to find a good Christian counselor is word-of-mouth Satisfied customers say a lot about the kind of counseling you will receive Although you might feel embarrassed to ask a minister friends or family for a referral you should consider doing it anyway It increases the odds you’ll find a counselor who will really help you and your spouse There’s a lot to be gained from seeking the advice of a third party who can help you find simple solutions to ’s complicated problems May God be with you as you seek that higher route Find Out More About Cornerstone’s Counseling Weekend 9/11/2015 “I recently moved to Newport Beach and wanted to find a way to reignite my meditation practice which had been abandoned for quite some time I found Dr Puff’s weekly meditation online and have been attending for a couple of months In addition to creating a lovely setting for group meditation Dr Puff provides attendees with the added benefit of sharing his insight — based on 30 years in practice as a clinical psychologist and through his extensive research and writing on the subject — on happiness how to achieve it and how to maintain it I highly recommend attending the free sessions on Wednesday evenings and following his podcasts for more in-depth views on a variety of subjects.” –. S are classified according to the number of legal spouses an individual has The suffix "-gamy" refers specifically to the number of spouses as in bi-gamy (two spouses generally illegal in most nations) and poly-gamy (more than one spouse). Since a wife was regarded as property her husband was originally free to divorce her for any reason at any time.[255] Divorcing a woman against her will was also banned by Gershom ben Judah A divorced couple were permitted to get back together unless the wife had married someone else after her divorce.[Deut 24:2–4] Among ancient Hebrews was a domestic affair and not a religious ceremony; the participation of a priest or rabbi was not required.[254] As the Holy Spirit enters our lives He works in us to produce a living fellowship between God and us Of course His work also affects the relationships we have with others around us particularly our spouses and our children Here are some of the works of the Holy Spirit that strongly impact our relationships: He gives us power to be Christ-like (Ephesians 3:16) He directs our lives on a daily basis (Romans 8:14) He convicts us of sin (John 16:8) He empowers us to fight sin in our lives (Galatians 5:15-16) He causes our s to glorify Christ (John 16:14) He produces the “fruit” of the spirit in our lives; love joy peace patience kindness goodness faithfulness gentleness self-control (Galatians 5:22-23) Consider these three steps that can lead your toward a renewed sense of intimacy: The source of all marital problems can be traced back to the Garden of Eden with creation’s first married couple Genesis 1 and 2 tells us that Adam and Eve lived in perfect union with God and with each other Without fear or shame they instinctively delighted themselves in creation in each other and God It was in essence a taste of Heaven on earth God instructed them not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (Genesis 2:17) They were told that if they did they would die Then one day something tragic happened Suddenly without warning their world…their lives…their and hence ours changed forever Genesis 3 depicts exactly what happened and how it affected their relationship Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made He said to the woman “Did God really say ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” The opposite case may happen as well Partners may not have full juridical acting capacity and churches may have less strict limits than the civil jurisdictions This particularly applies to minimum age or physical infirmities.[citation needed][clarification needed] Polygyny is widely practiced in mostly Muslim and African countries.[113][114] In the Middle Eastern region Israel Turkey and Tunisia are notable exceptions.[115] In most other jurisdictions polygamy is illegal For example In the United States polygamy is illegal in all 50 states.[116] Dr Robert Puff is an internationally recognized clinical psychologist who brings a holistic approach to and couples counseling individual therapy and family teenager & child counseling For over 30 years he has been successfully helping clients find greater peace and success in their lives and relationships by using a therapy that addresses the spiritual emotional nutritional and physical aspects of the individual Dr Puff has a private practice in Newport Beach just south of Hoag on PCH where he is able to help couples individuals families and organizations in all parts of Orange County and Southern California. 6/22/2016 “Check out his happiness podcasts They are great very insightful and bringing you back to inner peace knowing you’re in control of every situation and your response to it by controlling your thoughts The more we control our thoughts towards peace and happiness that’s what we will experience These are short 10-15 minute podcasts which are a great way to start your day to be as peaceful as possible.” – Annette W. Islam also commends with the age of being whenever the individuals feel ready financially and emotionally In Islam polygyny is allowed while polyandry is not with the specific limitation that a man can have no more than four legal wives at any one time and an unlimited number of female slaves as concubines with the requirement that the man is able and willing to partition his time and wealth equally among the respective wives. Right now what the two of you probably need most is a sense of hope empowerment and forward progress that can come from outside help and guidance Thirdly you need to seek immediate help because the longer you wait the more difficult it will likely be to save your A crisis needs to be treated as an emergency 911 situation because the very of the relationship is at risk As in any emergency it is important to act right away to get the professional help you need It amazes me that most people decide to end their s without seeking professional help A small percentage of people on the brink of divorce consult counselors or ministers That’s why I want to offer some guidelines for you to consider to assist you in seeking professional help to improve your Some married couples choose not to have children Others are unable to have children because of infertility or other factors preventing conception or the bearing of children In some cultures marriage imposes an obligation on women to bear children In northern Ghana for example payment of bridewealth signifies a woman's requirement to bear children and women using birth control face substantial threats of physical abuse and reprisals.[210] As a person who’s studied human behavior and as a and family minister who has studied relationships one thing I’ve discovered about people is that most want to grow but few want to change Why? Because growth requires change and change rarely comes without difficulty or pain Change takes time and energy It requires the willingness to take an honest look at oneself with God’s help and the courage to face our deficiencies weaknesses fears and failures It requires trusting oneself to God and believing that in the midst of the uncertainty God is faithful to perform a work inside of us On our own we don’t possess the power for long-term change Sure we can change for a time but we lack the power to consistently pursue oneness like God intended That’s why God sent the Holy Spirit into the of each believer to give us the power to live out His plan for. A graduate of Northwestern and Princeton and Fuller graduate schools with two master’s degrees and a Ph.D he has taught as an adjunct professor at Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology and worked as a staff psychologist at Trenton Psychiatric Hospital Sepulveda V.A Medical Hospital La Puente Mental Health and St Jude’s Medical Hospital Dr Puff also consults with businesses and nonprofits on a variety of topics including personal and work relationships depression career success and happiness stress and anger management workplace stress management and meditation He can be reached at DrPuff@ or 714-337-4889 (his cell phone) “I teach people how to be holistically successful When you learn to take care of yourself and love all areas of your you enrich not only yourself but all the people around you.” ~ Dr Robert Puff Dr Puff consults with businesses and nonprofits on a variety of topics including personal and work relationships depression parenting stress and anger management workplace stress management meditation healing from trauma and success He is available for speaking engagements personal and marital counseling and workplace consultations He can also be reached at DrPuff@ But just how does one restore trust in a severely fractured ? First you must understand that a multitude of hurts and disappointments occurred that eventually led to a crisis in the relationship Most people focus on just one particular major climactical event that occurred Yet there were likely a number of problems occurring personally (and in the relationship) that contributed to it This is not to excuse or justify any behavior but to emphasize that healing the pain in the relationship will not simply ensure that the behavior doesn’t happen again True healing must focus on restoring the relationship and changing behaviors Just as a ’s downfall was a process many steps are necessary to rebuild the marital relationship Take the steps today to restore your by reversing the process that has been destroying it. Some critics object to what they see as propaganda in relation to – from the government religious organizations the media – which aggressively promote as a solution for all social problems; such propaganda includes for instance promotion in schools where children especially girls are bombarded with positive information about being presented only with the information prepared by authorities.[133][134] “Before the the Renewal Weekend I was absolutely sure I wanted out of my ! I would find myself thinking about things I would do and how my would be without my husband The weekend for us was nothing short of miraculous I feel now that I can communicate my true feelings to… Read more “Barbara A.” What’s important to your spouse is probably different than what’s important to you People feel loved in different ways Sharing feelings being appreciated special time together affection sex thoughtful gifts and shared activities are a few examples Know your spouse’s love language and be sure to use it often This is what love is; the constant choice to give to another When we give of ourselves to meet our mate’s most important needs we create love What often happens is we evaluate our relationship based on how it benefits us the expectation being that our partner is here to give to us This is not love Love is about taking a quantum leap from being self-centered to other-centered This means becoming a student of your spouse and learning what pleases him or her and remembering what pleases him or her It means sacrificing your own needs to meet those of your spouse. (5) Know that most marital problems are can be worked through Don’t let any counselor tell you that change is impossible Human beings are amazing and they are capable (especially with God’s help) of making significant and lasting changes especially for people they love Most of all trust your instincts If your counselor is helping you’ll know it If he or she isn’t you’ll know that too Don’t stay with a counselor who is just helping you tread water Find one who will help. One of the most common reactions to a marital crisis is the loss of hope One or both spouses have typically been disappointed and become discouraged He or she believes that there is no possible way to repair the relationship and that even if they tried to stay together that it would be impossible to ever trust again In fact this inability to even imagine trusting again can be one of the greatest threats to reconciliation and healing What seems impossible is often never even attempted The good news is that we have a God who loves us and who is deeply committed to restoring us and our relationships. Child s can also occur in the context of bride kidnapping.[39] In the year 1552 CE John Somerford and Jane Somerford Brereton were both married at the ages of 3 and 2 respectively Twelve years later in 1564 John filed for divorce.[42][43] “our relationship had become cold and we barely communicated with each other anymore I learned how to better meet my wife’s needs I realized that I need to follow God’s plan I surrendered my to Jesus Now I want to be the spiritual leader in my home Thank you so much Your ministry saved… Read more “Anonymous 1” “for though we live in the world we do not wage war as the world does The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world On the contrary they have divine power to demolish strongholds We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ”(2 Corinthians 10:3-5 NIV). Anthropologists have proposed several competing definitions of in an attempt to encompass the wide variety of marital practices observed across cultures.[7] Even within Western culture "definitions of have careened from one extreme to another and everywhere in between" (as Evan Gerstmann has. “our was on the rocks for infidelity and we had allowed our to hit rock bottom due to neglect and lack of respect We had spent thousands of dollars on therapy and our had still not improved Out of desperation to not destroy the lives of our 3 precious boys we came… Read more “Anonymous 8” In other cultures with less strict rules governing the groups from which a partner can be chosen the selection of a partner may involve either the couple going through a selection process of courtship or the may be arranged by the couple's parents or an outside party a matchmaker. Religion has commonly weighed in on the matter of which relatives if any are allowed to marry Relations may be by consanguinity or affinity meaning by blood or by On the of cousins Catholic policy has evolved from initial acceptance through a long period of general prohibition to the contemporary requirement for a dispensation.[75] Islam has always allowed it while Hindu texts vary widely.[76][77] The mythological origin of Chinese heterosexual is a story about Nüwa and Fu Xi who invented proper procedures after becoming married In ancient Chinese society people of the same surname are supposed to consult with their family trees prior to to reduce the potential risk of unintentional incest Marrying one's maternal relatives was generally not thought of as incest Families sometimes intermarried from one generation to another Over time Chinese people became more geographically mobile Individuals remained members of their biological families When a couple died the husband and the wife were buried separately in the respective clan's graveyard In a maternal a male would become a son-in-law who lived in the wife's home. In Shia Islam may take place without the presence of witnesses as is often the case in temporary Nikah mut‘ah (prohibited in Sunni Islam) but with the consent of both the bride and the groom Following the they may consummate their [249] The apostle Paul tells us in Ephesians 6:12 “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood but against the rulers against the powers against the world forces of this darkness against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.” Unfortunately many believers do not take his existence or scriptural warnings and instructions about him seriously We can be absolutely certain that the enemy will do everything in his power to “kill steal and destroy,” first the joy and intimacy of your and then the very and family unit itself 2 Corinthians 2:11 tells that we should not let Satan take advantage of us by being ignorant of his schemes According to 2 Corinthians 11:3 we know that Satan has the ability to attack us much the same way he attacked Adam. I was unfaithful to my wife and it destroyed my The weekend was the last resort for us but we both decided to let God decide what He wanted us to do after this Before coming to the divorce was our only option but not anymore I have a lot… Read more “David B.” Insofar as regular s following prescriptive rules occur lineages are linked together in fixed relationships; these ties between lineages may form political alliances in kinship dominated societies.[79] French structural anthropologist Claude Lévi-Strauss developed alliance theory to account for the "elementary" kinship structures created by the limited number of prescriptive rules possible.[80] In the EU the last country to allow divorce was Malta in 2011 Around the world the only countries to forbid divorce are Philippines and Vatican City,[189] although in practice in many countries which use a fault-based divorce system obtaining a divorce is very difficult The ability to divorce in law and practice has been and continues to be a controversial issue in many countries and public discourse involves different ideologies such as feminism social conservatism religious interpretations.[190] Honestly and objectively recall what happened to you Explore the hurtful events from the wrongdoer’s perspective Consider your spouse’s weaknesses that might have led to the wrongdoing Someone has aptly said “God takes great pleasure in meeting us more than halfway.” For example He tells us in Luke 17:5-6 that if we have faith even as small as a mustard seed that tiny seed of faith will be rewarded by miracles in our lives In the same way as we become willing by faith to forgive and make amends with our mates and release them and ourselves from the bitterness we have carried God is there eager to encourage us and reward even our feeble attempts. From an Islamic (Sharia) law perspective the minimum requirements and responsibilities in a Muslim are that the groom provide living expenses (housing clothing food maintenance) to the bride and in return the bride's main responsibility is raising children to be proper Muslims All other rights and responsibilities are to be decided between the husband and wife and may even be included as stipulations in the contract before the actually takes place so long as they do not go against the minimum requirements. Laws banning "race-mixing" were enforced in certain North American jurisdictions from 1691[105] until 1967 in Nazi Germany (The Nuremberg Laws) from 1935 until 1945 and in South Africa during most part of the Apartheid era (1949–1985) All these laws primarily banned between persons of different racially or ethnically defined groups which was termed "amalgamation" or "miscegenation" in the U.S The laws in Nazi Germany and many of the U.S states as well as South Africa also banned sexual relations between such individuals. Ben was a 39-year-old computer technician whose wife Janet confronted him about an affair he had three years ago While counseling with them about the affair Ben told me that when he listened to Janet cry or express her hurt feelings that he would tell her he had confessed his wrong and that now she just needed to get over it! He said “I knew she was in pain but the fact that I was the source of the pain was gut-wrenching So sometimes I tried justifying the affair I blamed her – which stopped the tears and turned on the yelling – and when that didn’t work I fell back on convenient excuses like ‘It’s natural for men who are not getting enough sex. “in the middle of a nasty divorce 33 weeks pregnant with a 2-year old at home we were given the tools to restore a that had become so miserable and full of hate and resentment that I was willing to do anything just so I could tell my kids someday that I tried everything… Read more “Larry K.” © 2018 All Rights Reserved Designed by DL Church Websites